Vacations are a difficult time. But when you have problems in a marriage, it can be very difficult. Very difficult especially. It may seem like everyone else is happy and happy as you struggle through each day. Has this happened to you?
It’s easy to enjoy holiday decorating, gift shopping, family dinners, and parties when all you can think about is whether your wedding will or not. And if you will
Kids, you have a lot of stress trying to do other well-known things when you are less anxious and angry.
So what can you do?
You cannot cancel a time or take out a vacation. But you can plan ahead in advance which will reduce stress. Consider developing some of the following ideas:
1. Honestly and carefully prepare for major events and special days. What could change? Deleted? Instead of something else? Sent to someone else? What do you plan to do as long as you feel it is expected? What would you like to do?
2. Plan your vacation with people who let you be alone. These are the people who accept you the way you are. If you feel like crying, you can cry without being embarrassed. If you feel frustrated, you should not do business. These are people who care about you, and their presence in your life makes you well.
3. Stay in touch with your support networks, such as your church, a group of 12 members, friends, your favorite family members, and other resources. Now, more than ever, you need to feel that you are a big part of people. Just talking with a good friend over the phone can make you feel good and help you feel connected.
4. Unleash the unexpected burden – yours and more. You cannot pretend that everything is okay when it is not right, and you cannot take part in it so as not to offend your family or friends. If you have children, ask a trusted friend or family member to help you plan their entertainment. Your sister might want to include your children when she goes out with her children to play or watch a holiday movie.
5. Make sure you plan some activities during the holiday that will help you cope and increased stress, such as going on a trip and spending time outdoors. Or change your exercise session, take time out, or spend time with friends.
6. Stay in this moment as you can. Do not waste time sharpening your fears by viewing the worst part of your marriage. Life can be alive right now, and your energy and focus should be here now.
7. Try to take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, eat nutritious foods, and switch to alcoholic beverages. Excessive drinking can destroy your curiosity and increase your chances of saying or doing something to shoot yourself.
8. Go deep within the strength to deal with the uncertainty and stress – use prayer, meditation, time management – everything that helps you connect with a bigger source of strength than you are.
9. Watch your speech. Every day, tell yourself that you will endure in this difficult time, that you will survive, and that you will be right in the long run. Talk to yourself if you are talking to a friend you respect and care for.
10. Increase your exposure to well-meaning people, to books with inspirational content messages, and tapes, sermons, songs, and inspirational talks. Find five different things to be grateful for each day. Focusing more on what you should be thankful for helps focus on everything else.
Have a nice weekend. Be positive, be grateful for the blessing, and be courteous and kind.